The Feisty FaerieWitch


It Seems Like Forever …

… since I’ve taken the time to sit down and actually write a post, instead of going through the archives and reposting something just so I can say I’m still blogging. Truth is, Autumn is the busiest time of the year for us. Here in NC, the fall is full of festivals and vendor events, the temperatures are almost perfect to spend more time out of doors with family & friends, and I’d rather be doing something positive with the time the Gods have granted me than sitting on my ass in front of the computer reading about all the negative nasty things going on in the world. That doesn’t mean I’m hiding my head in the sand, nor does it mean I’m uninformed or unengaged, it means I’m cherishing each and every moment I have to spend with my family, while at the same time networking to help make the changes I want to see come to pass.

The first of the month has come and gone and the habitual culling of the chaff has been completed. I’ve removed a few people from my life who, no matter how much I tried to understand their point of view on life, I just couldn’t begin to wrap my head around what in MY opinion was nothing more than the unwillingness to open their eyes, learn a different perspective and perhaps see there IS more to life outside the box they’ve hidden themselves in. I wish these people no ill and I honestly hope they can somehow find joy and light in the darkness of this crazy world we all live in.

I’ve also been working with my Totems and will eventually have a page here on the blog that talks a little about the Nine Totems, how each of them influence our lives and what my totems are. I’ve been asked numerous times by various people to put something together in a centralized location that will give a better understanding of how our Totems guide us on our daily walk. And I’m hoping to have the page complete in a few more days. I think the most enjoyable thing about learning about our Totems (to me) is that each one has a different reason to be in our lives and a different lesson to teach each of us.

Going hand in hand with working with my Totems, we have a large group (a murder?) of crows (my Totem for South) living in the trees bordering our yard. Every time I go outside I hear them calling and I find myself stopping whatever it is I’m doing to just listen to them speak, I love how they call to each other. The other morning I was outside with Calliope (before she had to stay in the hospital), I heard the crows calling and called out a Good Morning to them, their calls got louder! It was such an awesome feeling! When we moved into this house in March, I was worried the crows wouldn’t be able to find us, but I’m happy to say it took no time at all for them to establish themselves in our trees and set up their nests. There is also a family or two of Blue Jays living in the trees, this makes me as happy as knowing the crows are nearby! Blue Jays are my Totem for East and are always present as I walk my walk facing the challenges I encounter in my Spirituality.

A few weeks ago our roof was replaced. The old one was probably the original roof and had been patched in numerous places each time a shingle had blown off and it started leaking. We now have a beautiful burgundy metal roof and I gotta tell you the rain falling on the metal roof is more than soothing! It’s raining ATM, and I could probably go wrap up in my blankets and not regret leaving the “chores” for another day, LOL!! All these little things are ginormous blessings in my eyes. And I am more than grateful for the Gods Blessings on my life…

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Reason, Season, Lifetime

From time to time while searching through my archived documents, I find things that seem to fit the mood I’m in at the time. This is one of those documents. Over the last few weeks, I’ve been smacked upside the head relentlessly, driving me to find this again. It was in a file folder I had transferred to my external hard drive. I don’t know why it is important to get this out here today, but someone needs this … or maybe I do. 

Quite a few years ago I wrote the following poem about the loss of a friend. I then posted it on MySpace, MyYearbook, and Vampire Rave in 2005, with NO copyright protection. It has been changed up and redistributed by MANY people. That I do not mind. I just want to make clear the fact that this is my original work and if you choose to use it, please link back…

Reason, Season, or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like they have been sent by the Gods, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Once they have met their commission, they find the time they spend with you to be stifling and move on. There is no fault to anyone for this, it is simply part of the Turning of the Wheel.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share your wisdom. It is your time to lead or teach or share your life experience, they are the one in need at this time and have been led to you to find their answers. They may not fully understand the gift of knowledge they have been given and after a time feel there is no profit for them and they either leave of their own accord or you are the one to walk away from a stagnant situation. Or, without any wrongdoing on your part, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that the need has been met, the desire fulfilled; your work is done. The prayer that was sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on. But that time was a learning period for the both of you. Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. The lifetime relationships have a lasting impact on all those involved, these relationships will always stand through the toughest storms and weather any tempest brought to you. I am blessed to have a few in my life that I consider lifetime relationships.

So, for those who have crossed into my life for whatever occasion, I thank you for coming into my life for a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime


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Good Morning, Kindred!

I know I’ve been a bit quiet for the past few days and some of you have messaged to make sure I’m OK. Yes, I’m good, as matter of fact, I’m GREAT!

Jimmy had the day off on Friday to go to traffic court, on the way back we did some exploring, there were a couple of local places he wanted to show me that he had come across while driving the big ass truck.

We found an amazing side of the road carry out place for down-home southern cooking, OMG! There weren’t any tables to eat at, so we went down the road about 10 miles and stopped at Lu Mill vineyard. All I can say is that experience was wonderful… they have a large covered patio with tables and the guy in the tasting room/gift shop said we were more than welcome to picnic there.

After devouring the food … the meatloaf and mac n cheese I had was Om nom, nom, NOM!, we went inside and tasted some of the most delicious wines I’ve had in a very long time. After tasting 6 different wines and 2 “mixed drinks” made with wine, we walked away from the gift shop with 2 bottles of sweet wine, one white and one red, a bottle of peach cider and a bottle of grape cider.

Before we left, we drove around the vineyard and checked out the cabins they have for rent as well as the ponds where they permit the public to fish in… ya’ll it’s TWO DOLLARS per person PER DAY! and since it’s private property, no fishing license is required. Jimmy is in HEAVEN!!

From there we stopped to check out a place that advertises fresh seafood including shrimp, scallops, and crab. Let’s just say, I was under impressed. The shrimp was the only thing that was fresh, the scallops and crab were frozen, and the price was ridiculous. It was higher than Fresh Market!

Yesterday, Saturday, was a full day of running errands and getting things accomplished. With only one vehicle and Jimmy needing to drive it to work each day, I usually run the household errands on Saturday even if I have to take him to work that day.

Today, it’s puttering around the house kind of day, there’s at least one load of laundry to do … gotta get those work clothes washed, LOL! And I’m hoping I can get Jimmy to help me set up the “table” I’m going to be using for my crafts. Tanya found what looks to be a panel from a large desk in an empty apartment last week, and for now, I plan to use cinder blocks for the legs.

I have no complaints about my life, in fact, I’d say things are pretty great …   ❤ ❤ ❤

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44 Days of Witch~Witchy Books That Influenced You?

Holy Crap! How do I even begin to write about this? My library of Witch books is huge, and I’m going to have to pick just a few to write about for this prompt … sheesh!

Fine … alright, let’s begin here:

To Ride A Silver Broomstick, To Stir A Magic Cauldron & To Light A Sacred Flame by Silver Ravenwolf (link to her Amazon author page) ~ yes, I know not many people like Silver Ravenwolf and that’s their prerogative. I DO like her and her books are a great way for a new Witch to begin learning. On the recommendation of someone who had been traveling the crooked path for quite a while, the very first “witch” book I ever bought was To Ride A Silver Broomstick. That quickly led to buying the next in the series and they became my “go to” for everything magical. These books are perfect for a beginner, the language is easy to read and understand without making yourself crazy trying to decipher what exactly is being said. Yes, they can make you feel like you are being talked down to IF you go into them with your ego showing. Use an open mind and really read what she’s saying, not what you want them to tell you.

The Inner Temple of Witchcraft by Christopher Penczak (link to his Amazon author page) ~ The Inner Temple of Witchcraft gave me my first basic of understanding the concept and process of meditation and deep soul searching. Since knowing how to find the sacred space inside you clear your mind and allowing your psychic abilities to give you direction and guidance are fundamental practices every Witch should know, this book is how to achieve that standard.

When God Was A Woman by Merlin Stone (link to her Amazon author page) ~ this is the ONE book that gave me a better understanding of the female aspect of Deity. Working with the Goddess was a challenge for me in the beginning, simply because I had grown up in a male dominated world and attended the Christian church for such a long time. Once I began my journey into Witch, reading everything I could find on Goddess worship or why the Goddess was relevant gave me a much clearer understanding of the how’s and why’s of Paganism.

Spiral Dance by Starhawk (link to her Amazon page) ~ Starhawk has been a huge influence within the Pagan community for oh so very long. When I read Spiral Dance, something came alive within me, broke free and has never been able to be contained ever again. This was the beginning of the modern rebirth of the Goddess movement and the history alone is so inspiring and compelling, I heartily recommend that everyone read this book, whether you are female or male, this will touch your heart and help to open your mind to fully understand there ARE greater things out there, you just need to be open to them. It’s also particularly relevant for the new practitioner including some get-your-toes-wet guidance and exercises for practice and crafting.

My bookshelves contain a wide variety of books on Witchy Books, these are the ones that influenced me as I began my journey.

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30 Traits of an Empath

Here’s a little refresher course on Empaths. Some of these traits are more pronounced and more powerful for those who are vibrating at a higher level. I am one of those individuals, and many of these are things I live with on a daily basis. These are some of the reasons I do not tolerate bullshit well and have been known to remove people from my Facebook life and my real life.

30 traits of an Empath by Crystal Moon

1. Knowing: Empaths just know stuff, without being told. It’s a knowing that goes way beyond intuition or gut feelings, even though that is how many would describe the knowing. The more attuned they are the stronger this gift becomes.

2. Being in public places can be overwhelming: Places like shopping malls, supermarkets or stadiums where there are lots of people around can fill the empath with turbulently vexed emotions that are coming from others.

3. Feeling others emotions and taking them on as your own: This is a huge one for empaths. To some, they will feel emotions off those near by and with others they will feel emotions from those a vast distance away, or both. The more adept empath will know if someone is having bad thoughts about them, even from great distance.

4. Watching violence, cruelty or tragedy on the TV is unbearable: The more attuned an empath becomes the worse it is and may make it so they eventually have to stop watching TV and reading newspapers altogether.

5. You know when someone is not being honest: If a friend or a loved one is telling you lies you know it (although many empaths try not to focus on this because knowing a loved one is lying can be painful). Or if someone is saying one thing but feeling/thinking another, you know.

6. Picking up physical symptoms off another: An empath will almost always develop the ailments off another (colds, eye infections, body aches and pains) especially those they’re closest to, somewhat like sympathy pains.

7. Digestive disorders and lower back problems: The solar plexus chakra is based in the center of the abdomen and it’s known as the seat of emotions. This is where empaths feel the incoming emotion of another, which can weaken the area and eventually lead to anything from stomach ulcers to IBS (too many other conditions to list here). Lower back problems can develop from being ungrounded (amongst other things) and one, who has no knowledge of them being an empath, will almost always be ungrounded.

8. Always looking out for the underdog: Anyone whose suffering, in emotional pain or being bullied draws an empath’s attention and compassion.

9. Others will want to offload their problems on you, even strangers: An empath can become a dumping ground for everyone else’s issues and problems, which, if they’re not careful can end up as their own.

10. Constant fatigue: Empaths often get drained of energy, either from energy vampires or just taking on too much from others, which even sleep will not cure. Many get diagnosed with ME.

11. Addictive personality: Alcohol, drugs, sex, are to name but a few addictions that empaths turn to, to block out the emotions of others. It is a form of self-protection in order to hide from someone or something.

12. Drawn to healing, holistic therapies and all things metaphysical: Although many empaths would love to heal others they can end up turning away from being healers (even though they have a natural ability for it), after they’ve studied and qualified, because they take on too much from the one they are trying to heal. Especially if they are unaware of their empathy. Anything of a supernatural nature is of interest to empaths and they don’t surprise or get shocked easily. Even at the revelation of what many others would consider unthinkable, for example, empaths would have known the world was round when others believed it was flat.

13. Creative: From singing, dancing, acting, drawing or writing an empath will have a strong creative streak and a vivid imagination.

14. Love of nature and animals: Being outdoors in nature is a must for empaths and pets are an essential part of their life.

15. Need for solitude: An empath will go stir-crazy if they don’t get quiet time. This is even obvious in empathic children.

16. Gets bored or distracted easily if not stimulated: Work, school, and home life has to be kept interesting for an empath or they switch off from it and end up daydreaming or doodling.

17. Finds it impossible to do things they don’t enjoy: As above. Feels like they are living a lie by doing so. To force an empath to do something they dislike through guilt or labeling them as idle will only serve in making them unhappy. It’s for this reason many empaths get labeled as being lazy.

18. Strives for the truth: This becomes more prevalent when an empath discovers his/her gifts and birthright. Anything untruthful feels plain wrong.

19. Always looking for the answers and knowledge: To have unanswered questions can be frustrating for an empath and they will endeavor to find an explanation. If they have a knowing about something they will look for confirmation. The downside to this is an information overload.

20. Likes adventure, freedom and travel: Empaths are free spirits.

21. Abhors clutter: It makes an empath feel weighed down and blocks the flow of energy.

22. Loves to daydream: An empath can stare into space for hours, in a world of their own and blissfully happy.

23. Finds routine, rules or control, imprisoning: Anything that takes away their freedom is debilitating to an empath even poisoning.

24. Prone to carry weight without necessarily overeating: The excess weight is a form of protection to stop the negative incoming energies having as much impact.

25. Excellent listener: An empath won’t talk about themselves much unless it’s to someone they really trust. They love to learn and know about others and genuinely care.

26. Intolerance to narcissism: Although kind and often very tolerant of others, empaths do not like to be around overly egotistical people, who put themselves first and refuse to consider another’s feelings or points of view other than their own.

27. The ability to feel the days of the week: An empath will get the ‘Friday Feeling’ if they work Fridays or not. They pick up on how the collective is feeling. The first couple of days of a long, bank holiday weekend (Easter for example) can feel, to them, like the world is smiling, calm and relaxed. Sunday evenings, Mondays and Tuesdays, of a working week, have a very heavy feeling.

28. Will not choose to buy antiques, vintage or second-hand: Anything that’s been pre-owned carries the energy of the previous owner. An empath will even prefer to have a brand new car or house (if they are in the financial situation to do so) with no residual energy.

29. Sense the energy of food: Many empaths don’t like to eat meat or poultry because they can feel the vibrations of the animal (especially if the animal suffered), even if they like the taste.

30. Can appear moody, shy, aloof, disconnected: Depending on how an empath is feeling will depend on what face they show to the world. They can be prone to mood swings and if they’ve taken on too much negative will appear quiet and unsociable, even miserable. An empath detests having to pretend to be happy when they’re sad, this only adds to their load (makes working in the service industry, when it’s service with a smile, very challenging) and can make them feel like scuttling under a stone.

If you can say yes to most or all of the above then you are most definitely an empath

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44 Days of Witch~Oils

The prompt for today simply states oils. There is nothing else to give me a direction to follow. So I’m going to write about my favorite and go to oil Lavender


I use lavender oil for a myriad of things. Mostly for relaxation and stress relief, but also as a bug repellant.

Lavender Essential Oil

Properties: Lavender essential oil can be calming, sleep inducing, analgesic, disinfectant, anti-inflammatory, antiseptic, and antifungal.

Health benefits: This oil is beneficial for the treatment of issues of the nervous system, insomnia, pain relief, urine flow, respiratory disorders, skin care, hair care, blood circulation, indigestion, and immune system health.

I keep a spray bottle filled with Witch Hazel or alcohol and organic Lavender oil handy at all times. I spray it on my linens and pillows before bed to help us to relax and calm before bed. Lavender also helps to promote sleep and has proven effective in reducing the number of chemical sleep aids some people have been taking to get that full night of restful sleep. Lavender essential oil has a calming scent which makes it an excellent tonic for the nerves and anxiety issues. It can also be helpful in treating migraines, headaches (for migraines and headaches I massage a tiny drop into my temples and then lay quietly for about 30 minutes. For me, this works every time), depression, nervous tension and emotional stress. You can also add lavender oil to a carrier oil such as sweet almond oil and burn in an oil burner.

I add lavender oil to Epsom salts for a relaxing and stress relieving soak in the tub. The ratio I use is usually 1 cup Epsom salt to 10 drops lavender oil, add to bath water and soak until water begins to cool, approximately 25 minutes.

As an insect repellant, I combine approximately 20 drops of lavender oil with 6 ounces of Witch Hazel or alcohol and spray on my clothes and exposed skin before spending time outside. I don’t like commercial insect repellant, it makes me cough and sneeze, so because I like to spend time outside as much as possible, I had to find an alternative. Lavender works as well as citronella oil and I like the smell much better!

Disclaimer: The above information is MY experience and I am in no way prescribing or suggesting any of you use the information for anything other than entertainment purposes. I am not a doctor, nor a pharmacist, nor am I an expert in essential oils.